Meaty Politics!!

India is a democratic country. For the people, of the people and by the people. This is something I remember studying in one of the textbooks back in school. Yes it just is a fancy expression for being in a democratic country.

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We have our dictators and dictatorships under wraps, oh! You the so called political parties…. It is all about Monarchy and patriarchy and all other archies we can think off!

Now India is a country where the choice of food is defined by regulations. India is now a country where in, meat ban is more important than importance of education, crime rates, rapes, fraud cases and medical facilities.

The meat ban, closing of the slaughter houses and people on the streets forcing the international food chains and our own people out of work is another new low for us as a society.

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We have life imprisonment for consuming beef, but rapist? What about the fraud cases?

The discrimination based on caste, language, color, money, state etc.. Was not enough that we go overboard with this too?

The amount of people on streets doing the best to sustain the meat ban just proves the unemployment rates in India. We need to be very concerned about this and not celebrate it.

This is very disturbing. If we talk about cow meat in particular that, cow is worshiped, what about these animals who are also associated with God and mythology:

Monkeys—Hanuman

Tortoise—Vishnu (Kurma)

Eagle—Vishnu (Garuda)

Dog— Kal Bhairav(Shiva)

Boar— Varaha (Vishnu)

Lion — Narasimha (Vishnu)

Tiger — Durga

Snake— Vishnu and Shiva

Elephant — Ganesh

Mouse — Ganesh

Peacock — Ayyapa

These are a few I could think of. What are we doing for them? Animal protection is important and we do need to address that, but making it political and creating differences is no solution to anything.

It is very clear why the meat ban is receiving this kind of importance. I only wish we could leave all this and focus more on what is important for this country.

India needs awareness on not only our culture but also cultures around the world. The new laws in America is an important issue as it effects a huge chunk of the working class. Education is becoming expensive by the hour, we need to get better laws for the education system.

As a country we need new medical policies. Safety of the children and women. There are just so many issues. But surely meat ban is not one of them.

What one eats is his or her personal choice. Food is supposed to bring people closer and not create differences.

The Danish Girl

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Based on the life of Lili Elbe (Einar Wegener) and Gerda Wegener; Two painters in love, married for years. Things change when Einar dies and then when Lili does.

Einar and Lili are the same person or to correct myself different people but stuck in the same body.

Einar is married to the beautiful Gerda who he fondly calls as “beautiful and shameless Gerda”. They are in love and enjoy each other’s company. They decide to play a game where Einar is dressed as a woman and is introduced as his cousin “Lili”. They attend an art gala for a friend where Lili is pursued by a man.

Einar realizes that the deep seated desire he has is to free Lili from his man body. He admits the same to Gerda. The journey for two lovers transitioning from being a married couple in love to being best friends supports the transition of Einar to Lili.

The movie is beautiful!!! The way the journey of 3 souls is handled, it is a testimony not just to the director but also to the actors.

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You can feel Einar changing into Lili. You desperately want him to transition. You get angry when he is treated like a mental patient. And Gerda, Oh my Gerda, I could relate most to her. Being in love with a man and see him slowly move away, turn into a different person is not easy, but she makes it seamless. Her pain and suffering is silent. You rather hope for her that all this is just a bad dream and Einar will come back.

Gerda loves Einar to a point that she helps him to transition. She stands beside him no matter what. Gerda proves to the world that a woman’s love knows no boundaries. It may seem stupid and unnecessary but that is what love does, it gives you the strength to make it through the worst times.

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Here are a few quotes from the movie:

Einar Wegener: I love you, because you are the only person who made sense of me. And made me, possible.

Einar Wegener: I think Lily’s thoughts, I dream her dreams. She was always there.

Lili Elbe: I know you have taken care of me, why did you do everything if you hoped this would be same again. I need to take care of myself now Gerda, and you should too.

I am keen to read Lili’s thoughts published as “Man into Woman”. Lili, Einar and Gerda did not have a happy ending but they did what was best for their love, their passion!!!!!

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Anda ka Funda!!!!

You may have a heart of gold, but so does a hard-boiled egg. — Unknown

Eggs indeed have a heart of gold. They are one of the most popular and preferred option for breakfast around the world. They are used in all forms of cooking and of course baking. Everybody has their favorite form of eggs. Some like omlettes, some boiled or poached and some (just like me) scrambled.

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We here in India call scrambled eggs, Anda Bhurji. The comfort street dish found in every city and any time of the day.

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There is nothing like standing at a thela (kiosk) and seeing your anda bhurji being made. The aroma of fried onions and tomatoes, spices and freshly whisked eggs. The anda bhurji is typically served with pav or bread with a dollop of butter and sprinkling of coriander leaves.

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Anda bhurji fuels the officer goers as a quick breakfast option and comforts the late night college students taking a break from… from well….. being students!!

It is easy to make, takes no time and barely requires any cooking skills. Yet it manages to fill the heart and stomach with comfort and warmth.

Choose any partner for your bhurji; pav, bread, chapati, chai, coffee, and sutta. It is going to bring smile to your face.

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Enjoy your plate of anda bhurji and spread some love… the world needs it!!!

Lonely!!!

“Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty”. —Mother Teresa

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Loneliness does not see status, background or gender; it just sneaks on you. Being a part of a few support groups I have come to realize that almost everybody I meet is lonely.

It changes you….. Loneliness changes you. I am not the person I was before. Years of loneliness have finally caught up.  Now it’s just fight against time to just live …. Survive. How did I get here? No clue. Why me? No clue.

What do I know then? Is this it? Is this the end?

I am sure these questions have played in the mind of every person battling loneliness. There is no shame in admitting you are lonely. Let us talk about it. Talk about why are we lonely? What do we miss the most?

Maybe someone finally will understand …… take our loneliness away. Is it possible? I don’t know……but I sure hope so.

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I am learning how to handle my loneliness. Here are a few things that I think helps, if you are in the same boat as me… please read on.

  1. Being surrounded by people does not mean we are not lonely. We can be in a room full of people and feel very lonely.
  2. Stop looking for the special one. Yes! You heard me right. It is tedious and if you come across people who are not worth your time and effort… it just going to make you lonelier and shattered.
  3. Anybody who promises to be there and still finds fun and solace everywhere else, cut that person out of your life immediately. Yes! I know they are the only ones we can count on. It’s difficult and everything. But get through this and I promise things are going to change.
  4. Invest in yourself. First stop asking why. Just invest in yourself… eat well. Sleep well… make yourself the best version of you.
  5. Do things that scare you. Trust me. The best one. Get comfortable eating alone (your food is not going to cheat on you)…. Sleep alone (your pillow will comfort only you and not a so called “friend”). Travel alone…. Meet new people
  6. Do things you love…. Dance…sing…paint…travel…read…cook…..have one night stands……anything anything at all that makes you happy.

It is a small life… though it may seem big to us lonely folks but it actually is small…let us make it unlimited….. Whatever the reason for your survival…parents…children…siblings……revenge…..whatever….. It is…it is your goal…make it happen…take every day as it comes…..do not think too much…do not worry about future……I know it is difficult but let us just try and make…make it with hope in our hearts and smile on our faces.

We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope. —- Martin Luther King, Jr.

FREEEEE!!!!!!

“I am free and that is why I am lost.”— Franz Kafka

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Being free and being lost, the two most craved and misunderstood feelings in the world.

What is being free? What is being lost? I do not know either. But I know that I am free at the moment, free from the ties, free from being held down. I do not have any ties, I do not have people telling me what I need to do, where I should go, what is good for me etc.… This is good right… I always craved for this ……. I have spent years waking up each morning to pray for freedom… Yet I am unable to enjoy it!

I crave for the feeling of belonging…. I do not want people breathing down my neck… but just that once in a while hold me back from my wild ways…. Hear out my craziness and be a part of it kind of belonging… and ofcourse you do not establish this with a random person… it is very intimate…very personal…..

I have realized that being free does not come free either…. You pay a price for it… the price called loneliness….. and it is a huge price to pay… your friends and family establish that you need nobody…but fact of the matter is you do… you need that one person who gets you in your space…. Does not change a thing in your tantrums…. Calms you down and again gets you all riled up too…

But well…..we cannot bake our own cake and have it too…so….

In this galaxy full of stars…..find your shine…. Shine bright…..free or lost…..its your shine after all!!!!

Am I The Ugly Duckling????

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As a kid I used to love the story of “The Ugly Duckling” by Hans Christian Andersen. I used to think that I will also grow up to be a swan. I am probably just mistaken as the ugly duckling (child’s innocence)!

But now my perception of the story is very different. The author ends the story with the duckling throwing himself at the flock of the swans (suicide, been there, done that!) and the swans welcome him and they fly away together (birds of a feather flock together). His people accept him for who he is!

Does this happen though? The good looking people live in a different world altogether. They don’t understand the basic struggles of us average people. A good looking person gets what he/she wants. I don’t know if this works true for men but for women I am a living witness, good looking girls actually have world at their feet.

They can move forward in the career, get a wonderful man to fall in love with them, chose not to marry him, get married to even better (the old one still pining for them!), the cosmetic industry first curates stuff for them…they do not have to go through the stares of the salesperson when the ask for something better, they are shown whatever is the best!!

Us average people are like the second class citizens in this world; struggle with jobs, constantly prove themselves, listen to endless tips and tricks to look better, love is far far far fetched(u know my mom and dad would not approve of you) and Thank God for online shopping!!!

The things we hear are hilarious and amusing all at the same time. The words like:

  • a good person,
  • cute,
  • sweet,
  • Oh! Lovely eyes,
  • no you look fine,
  • Who says dark people don’t look beautiful?

We recently my friend was telling me that his very fair friend is dating a dark person, and I could not stop laughing; I mean what is it supposed to mean? Is it coz that fair person has a kind heart to date a not good looking person? I mean, why can we not understand that God created us different and instead to making fun of it and bullying somebody for the way they look why can we not just love our differences?

I guess too much to ask for humans to be human!!!

I admit I am an ugly duckling and there is nothing I can do about it! I wish I could, but I know I cant, and now it does not matter.

Religion or Humanity!!!

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I came across this post on Facebook. I liked it! But for some reason I kept reading it again and again and again. The post disturbed me. I saw the post just after the ban on immigrants by the very popular Mr. Trump.

India is a country where Religion+Language+Caste+Gender = Identity. Nobody can change it, everybody seems OK with it. Heck! We even end up marrying complete stranger to keep the “identity” intact!

But targeting a religion, how is it fair? Whether it’s done to get votes or make cults… it only leads to discrimination and destruction. The world has seen enough wars… we have come far from those times…. Why can we not deal with things in a better manner?

All the religions preach love…. God is a creator…. A creator would not want to destroy….. Imagine yourself to be a creator … you have make a painting or a pot or building or a family…. You would do everything in your power to protect it. Similarly God does not want destruction, war and debates. It is us humans who do that…we play with faith, truth and the worst of all the humanity.

I encourage you to love people beyond their “identity”. In the fight for all let not humanity get lost!!!!!

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Guideline or Dictatorship????

Socialism is a fraud, a comedy, a phantom, a blackmail. Democracy is beautiful in theory; in practice it is a fallacy.— Benito Mussolini

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For the people, of the people and by the people…. I remember reading the lines in a textbook back in school. As a little girl I was so proud that my country is built on the foundation of its citizens. I remember feeling hopeful, hopeful that by the time I am a grownup, I will contribute to “by the people” part of the system.

And yes I am a grownup now, Earning for nearly a decade, paying taxes and managing to survive by scraping each dream off the list slowly and steadily( I mean who needs a home or better medical insurance, and why have kids I don’t want them to be illiterates!)

Governments come and governments go!  But what amuses me is that they try to outdo themselves and in the worse possible way. The latest feather in the hat being the new “guidelines for the disabled during National Anthem”.

The government over the years has done their best to support the disabled or as I like to call them specially-abled. How much of the support actually reaches them is another debate all together. So if they expect something in return that’s only fair right? I mean there are no free lunches in the world. The government provides you with benefits so that you can vote for them again!

But imposing patriotism in form of attention to National Anthem is kind of being unreasonable. I mean don’t you think so? How do you label a citizen patriotic on their attention to National Anthem?

We citizens of India love our country, we may not be at our best behavior of late, but we do. Even the NRIs do I am sure. We don’t need telling to respect the National Anthem. Our specially abled citizens are no different government! they do not need the guidelines. A bedridden person or an athlete have different manners to reflect their patriotism. Make such guidelines shows that you care of the superficial issues as compared to the real ones. Make guidelines on not assaulting a fellow citizen. And make those guidelines so strong that  no such incident is ever repeated again.

Let’s not just change or add guidelines, but make such changes that our history reflects our growth!!!