On the eve of women’s day( no pun intended :P), I appreciate all the wishes in form of messages and forwards. Women wish each other, our male friends and colleagues wish us. The day is celebrated with chocolates and flowers. A sweet gesture to honor 49.6% of population in the world.
However, we do not ask for it. We don’t need to feel special or different. We need to feel equal.
Rebecca Walker | writer, feminist and activist says:
“Helping men understand that toxic masculinity is learned, not born, and endangers not just women but men, animals, plants and the future of humanity itself. To cultivate and partner with men who understand that patriarchy is killing them too; what they mistake for privilege is simply another form of bondage.”
Yes, finally! It is just not about being a feminist, or matching men with manly manners. It is about balance, a balance that will provide well for children, our future generations. A better society, less crime, less emasculation.
We must live up to the roles that are carved for us. A woman is supposed to behave, think and do things a certain way; coy, not too loud, understated, always pretty and dependent.
A man is supposed to behave, think and do things a certain way: aggression, raw, rough and independent.
Just as we women are under constant pressure to live up to the expectations, so are men. They constantly have to prove their masculinity. To be a man you need to be strong, broad, devoid of sensitivity, breadwinner, decision maker and live with the thought that women are the weaker race.
As women we are taught to believe that a man has to be all of this and only then he is worthy of you.
With changing times, the imbalance of power and freedom has led to the new age relationships where feelings and love do not exist. People do not understand loyalty. They are constantly competing. The sense of support is lost.
Women do not trust to have a man in their lives anymore. They do not know who, why and what are they looking for!
Same is with men, they do not know how to adjust to the change of women from their moms age to the present-day girls.
We need to be more accommodating with the changes. Women want to be educated, they want to be a part of the families they are born into and then married into.
It is ok if a man wants to be a chef or a dancer or a stay at home dad. It is their choice. Let us stop judging. Stop creating stereotypes. Let each write their own story man, woman or third gender.
What you want is what you get.
So a Happy Woman’s Day may we be strong, raise better, be more accepting.